RELATIONSHIP IS INVESTMENT—

 RELATIONSHIP IS INVESTMENT—

I called one of my best people when I could no longer understand the emotional energy a guy was giving me. And I understood when David Olajide said “relationship is investment”. 

 I wake up one morning texting this person like he is everything I desire and on other days, I can’t even reach out to him because he has locked himself out. Then I began to understand “investment”, it’s like setting up a business. You are expected to put in capital, in this case, action, communication and it would yield results- alignment, interest. 

   This was an investment after all. The ability to want to put love into you, into us, into this. And the thing with investments, you can’t be unsure, if you are, the risk of it collapsing is higher. I can’t be unsure of your love for me, I can’t be unsure of your interest in us. I can’t be uncertain of your commitment to this. You can’t have a leg in and another out. You don’t do that in investments, you have to take a risk. Wanting us is a risk. Declaring you want us is a risk. Taking steps to having us is a risk.  That’s investment. 

   So, I was starting to understand, for every time this person is unsure, the risk of collapsing sets higher. So, I need to let go or build on my terms. To maintain communication on my terms, to love on my terms. To let go would mean it’s no longer a business I would love to invest in. This communication no longer works for us, this relationship would never be, so break the idea of it; cancel investment. Build on my terms; I understand this looks productive to me as much as the partner I require doesn’t want to be on board or it’s not time to sail into the market. But, let’s try friendship- which is similar to weighing the risk of an investment. Getting used to the market, understanding survival principles.  

But let’s do it on a conducive scale, let me check in when I desire, let me match energy when I feel the need to. Because if I rush into reviewing the market, if I rush into building this friendship, if I don’t do this on my terms, I could lose myself. How so? When you want to go into a new market, it could be frustrating- it’s either, I don’t know this new market, let me try to understand it. 

Then you spend time knowing the market, instead of knowing the market at your pace, you are following the speed of the market; rushing to read with stock is down, panicking when market crashes, bothered when he doesn’t give you energy, hating yourself when he is not having your time. Do the market at your pace. I know it’s rush time for this stock, but let me slow down to study how the gauge works, I can’t let the market control me, I can’t let his emotions alone decide, let me be present in this market too. 

   In doing that, you get clarity (I believe) after working on the self pace. If or not, you’d love to invest in the relationship. Not to say everything you take time on eventually works out, but it’s a great contributing factor. May eyes of understanding be opened, may you invest wisely. 

   

    OLU AJOBA

7/2022