A WOMAN

BECOMING A WOMAN.
THE DOs AND DON'Ts.

*Becoming a woman is a war, a struggle from beyond... becoming a woman is hard but strenght lies deep down.

1. You have to fight : Not physcially, but emotionally, spiritually and mentally.
2. Don't relax: I don't mean you can't take off your heels when you are tired, i mean the struggle of keeping up during depressions, don't stop being tough.
3. Never lower your standards: Stoop low for no man.

Article time.

BECOMING A WOMAN, MY TOUGHEST RACE.

I had sleepless nights, endless fights.
Battles that drained me, words that killed me.
Memories that wouldn't fade, moments that hurts badly.
I had to paint images of success in my head, while i cry behind closed doors. I couldn't hide in the comfort of my zone, i gave sacrificies only heavens can measure.
I kept up hope and a light called love. I died within my soul many nights before dawn.
One day, i became bold, i started a journey that changed my fate. I started with prayer and kept up with faith, i knew i had grace, i continually prayed for favour and mercy. I had to struggle, i had to believe, i also had to die before i live... i realized to became a woman i had to be the first to believe in myself. Whenever i rise, i say don't give up. If i am wrong, i tell myself; you can do more.
When i am down, i say hey, get up. Becoming a woman was war, i had to drop alot, starting from my thoughts, nags, screams and fights. I began to invest more time in myself.
Yet, i had qualms. I lost myself several times, i fought battles that weren't mine, took judgement into my hands, whenever i was angry i'd curse any human that crosses my part.
I had flaws so i still had to fight. My goals were not to be perfect but to hide my faults from the public eyes. No intentions to give wrong impression, but what people think matters.
I fell in love several times, loved someone else's man, cried over someone i thought should be mine, i also complimented cute guys.
There were times i never took charge, times i envied others. It took strenght, commitment and passion to be strong.. i learnt a lot in the cause of the war, i couldn't give up, didn't look down on anyone, i avoided getting in bad book.
I was strong because i built myself and believed, i never allowed anyone tell me no. I created what never existed and i erased all that injured me. I have an empire because i looked at God's plan for me, i prayed and scaled through.
Becoming a woman for me was the greatest journey and it just started.

Written by: Ajoba Oluwafunke.

Inspired by : Olawale Ipaye.